Our family of origin is the point or place where our lives begins, arises and derived our understandings of a bigger society outside of the family’s context. Listed below, I have provided direct quotes from my book entitled, “Dancing Through the Storms of Life“, published in May 2014.
Exposing the Hidden Roots
“Recognizing the root of a problem will produce change; and embracing removing these roots are predicated on how interconnected it has become.
Among the chapters of this book, this may be one of the most important shared information to grasp. We are naturally wired to “learn by what we see”, and contradictory to this statement; many parents told their children “to do as I say and not as I do”. Further, while completing my graduate program as a Family Therapist; I was trained to view change in terms of the systems of interaction between family members. It emphasizes family relationships as an important factor in psychological health, which dealt with both, the emotions and mind.
This scripture came to mind as I prepared to write this Chapter, because it provides an example of the parents’ responsibility to teach and model the “principals of life”. In accordance with Deuteronomy 5: 9-10 (NIV), “You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, 10) but showing love to a thousand generations of those who love me and keep my commandments.”
In Chapter 5, Moses was teaching the principals of life to the children of Israel; learning these principles were essential for the family’s quality of life, and critical to sustaining moral conduct within the families. The principals applied within a family are also used to develop social relationships. However, when moral conduct are marred and displaced within a family; an individual is more susceptible to building unhealthy relationships. Although, it may have appeared seemly an easy task to follow since the children of Israel were accustom to worshiping the Lord. This was evident by their 40-day journey through the wilderness.
Another important fact to recognize in Deuteronomy 5: 9 -10 where the children of Israel were given options with consequences; “You shall not bow down to them or worship them; for I, the Lord your God, am a jealous God, punishing the children for the sin of the parents to the third and fourth generation of those who hate me, 10) but showing love to a thousand generations of those who love me and keep my commandments.” This was indicated when the Lord interjected with a conjunction “but”. When considering both verses, we may conclude that the Lord knew some children would follow after the destruction of their parents, or accept those behaviors acceptable unto the Lord.
In further consideration of the prior verses, the Lord had painted a clear picture of how powerful family relationships are engrained in our subconscious and gauges our interactions with others. When the connotations within a family are habitually negative, this sets precedence over positive affirmations and eventually sowing “hidden roots” in the subconsciousness. The mind and heart make this distinction of the hidden roots’ exposure, which means there could be multiple roots surfacing at various stages of life.
Stay tuned for more information……..gnc.